The One-Day-At-A-Time Philosophy

My “one day at a time” philosophy has served me well so far in my journey with metastatic breast cancer. To that end, I do my best to live in the present, neither looking back nor looking too far forward.

Much to my relief, I have had a second PET scan that showed improvement in my condition and no new lesions (yay!). As my oncologist explained, it was like a campfire whose embers were glowing less brightly. Hopefully, that will continue to be the case.

I am incredibly grateful that I am able to maintain an active life style. Even thought I have opted to give up golf, I stay busy. I go to the gym twice a week to work out with a personal trainer. I still chair the Pink Ladies cancer support group. I play bridge and mahjong once a week. So far, I am still able to travel. My husband and I are planning a trans-Atlantic trip later this month.

When I was initially diagnosed with cancer for the third time, I asked “why me? How could this happen? What did I do wrong? How did the doctors miss it? Was it in part a result of radiation?” I was angry and frustrated. I am still processing the reality of my situation. But there is no benefit to focusing on the past.

I have learned to set short term goals- my grandson’s high school graduation, a summer visit from my children, our trip to Europe, then a North Carolina Christmas with our children and grandchildren. We even have a trip planned for early 2020.

I try not to wonder what will happen in the far future. I will continue to set short term goals and look at each day as a gift not to be wasted.

I continue to be positive. I am able to be there for others whose disabilities and/or illnesses are more debilitating than mine. However, I graciously accept all the love and support that is offered.